Wishing for a miracle

“Nobody tells you about turning 30”. And we got the bad end of that deal. I turned 30, 33 days after the accident. It should have been the last thing on my mind that day. But it wasn’t. I kept thinking about how we could have easily been somewhere else. If we had left earlier, or later,…

(Happy) Mother’s Day.

Mother’s day. My mum is with me; Amma (ummmaa). And my dad too; Atchan (utchunn).  It is usually all fun and play, to have your parents visit you. Jitish and I had planned. Eagerly. To have our parents visit us in the US in 2016. To take them to places we have seen. Camp at the…

Anniversary, After, All.

10th of May, 2015. Our First wedding anniversary. We were going to move into our first apartment together. A home we both would make our own. We had packed up half of our belongings the weekend before. Ready to move on the 7th of May. New lease signed. Uhaul truck booked. Amazon order for patio…

Frozen in Time.

when everyone around you seems to move on and you see life go by.

What happens after? Understanding Brain Functionality

I have had a very rude awakening to TBI. I knew little to nothing of traumatic brain injury prior to the accident. Oblivious and ignorant. Until I was told that my husband suffered a Severe Traumatic Brain Injury. I didn’t quite understand the gravity of the aftermath and its long term consequences, until the Doctors and Nurses slowly…

TBI Rehabilitation – Assisted Living vs. Going Home

In early September of last year, I had to make a tough choice of whether I should enroll my husband in a Neurorestorative program. I had to evaluate if he was safe to come home and if it was even the right time for his development to be home. I had to judge if I had the…

Prepare for the worst, Hope for the best!

We met on this day, Eight years ago. Looking back, I guess we were meant to meet. He was meant to miss his bus, I was meant to have no plans on New Years. And we ended up accompanying our best friend’s to a 2008 New Year’s Eve party. He with his best bud, Harish;…

Not yet home.

Life as you had known it is gone. It has changed, leaving no control in your hands. You choose to ride the storm, or perish.

TBI Recovery – Ranchos Los Amigos Scale

The Ranchos Los Amigos Scale of Cognitive Recovery is a medical scale used to assess the cognitive progress of individuals after a closed head injury, including traumatic brain injury, based on cognitive and behavioural presentations as they emerge from coma[1]. It is named after the Rancho Los Amigos National Rehabilitation Center, located in Downey, California. The RLAS…

First day, away.

This is hard. Being away from him. It has been five months, on the 3rd of October. I drove on Sunday night to get back to the apartment. It was time I got back to something normal in the hope of getting our life squared once again. It has been five months, and I had…

TBI – Rehabilitation & Recourse

Brace yourself. It is going to be a very long, laborious, and labyrinthine road to recovery. You know how people say, “Life is a roller-coaster”? Well, you have been launched into the mother of all roller-coasters that would make the Six Flags ‘Full Throttle’ look like child’s play! Ground yourself, quick, because he is having it worse…