The IVC filter comes out

We are at the UW Madison Hospital today morning.  Jitish gets his IVC filter taken out today. We are nervous. But Jitish looks completely composed. Restless even, wanting to just get it over with. The Doctor comes in and explains the procedure and the risks associated. My heart is racing. Jitish looks nonchalantly and urges…

Wishing for a miracle

“Nobody tells you about turning 30”. And we got the bad end of that deal. I turned 30, 33 days after the accident. It should have been the last thing on my mind that day. But it wasn’t. I kept thinking about how we could have easily been somewhere else. If we had left earlier, or later,…

(Happy) Mother’s Day.

Mother’s day. My mum is with me; Amma (ummmaa). And my dad too; Atchan (utchunn).  It is usually all fun and play, to have your parents visit you. Jitish and I had planned. Eagerly. To have our parents visit us in the US in 2016. To take them to places we have seen. Camp at the…

Anniversary, After, All.

10th of May, 2015. Our First wedding anniversary. We were going to move into our first apartment together. A home we both would make our own. We had packed up half of our belongings the weekend before. Ready to move on the 7th of May. New lease signed. Uhaul truck booked. Amazon order for patio…

Frozen in Time.

when everyone around you seems to move on and you see life go by.

What happens after? Understanding Brain Functionality

I have had a very rude awakening to TBI. I knew little to nothing of traumatic brain injury prior to the accident. Oblivious and ignorant. Until I was told that my husband suffered a Severe Traumatic Brain Injury. I didn’t quite understand the gravity of the aftermath and its long term consequences, until the Doctors and Nurses slowly…

Prepare for the worst, Hope for the best!

We met on this day, Eight years ago. Looking back, I guess we were meant to meet. He was meant to miss his bus, I was meant to have no plans on New Years. And we ended up accompanying our best friend’s to a 2008 New Year’s Eve party. He with his best bud, Harish;…

Not yet home.

Life as you had known it is gone. It has changed, leaving no control in your hands. You choose to ride the storm, or perish.

First day, away.

This is hard. Being away from him. It has been five months, on the 3rd of October. I drove on Sunday night to get back to the apartment. It was time I got back to something normal in the hope of getting our life squared once again. It has been five months, and I had…

Taking the First Step

  I am sure it is pure joy to watch your child take the first step. Surely, there must be a deep sense of pride and fulfillment to watch your child learn to balance and stand up; developing physical independence and self-sufficiency. Those moments must bring tears in the parent’s eyes. Tears of joy. I hope…

Keeping Hope

“Accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. “ Martin Luther King, Jr. Life at Lifecare was short-lived. Over the course of the next few weeks, Jitish had started to engage his left torso and limbs. He started to wriggle out of his hand-cast and brace. Started to fold and flatten his left feet repeatedly,…